some thoughts by real thinkers on betrayal and integrity after a sleepless night following my 27th birthday

there is always something poignant that happens in the new year to remind you how fragile a thing trust is. It astounds me how we all are products of our own rationalization and how actions are the true measures of integrity.

Betrayal is the only truth that sticks.
-Arthur Miller

Love is whatever you can still betray ... Betrayal can only happen if you love.
-John LeCarre

Believe nothing just because a so-called wise person said it. Believe nothing just because a belief is generally held. Believe nothing just because it is said in ancient books. Believe nothing just because it is said to be of divine origin. Believe nothing just because someone else believes it. Believe only what you yourself test and judge to be true. [paraphrased]
-Buddha

Through pride we are ever deceiving ourselves. But deep down below the surface of the average conscience a still, small voice says to us, 'Something is out of tune.'
-Carl Jung

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.
-Martin Luther King Jr.

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.
-Mohandas K. Gandhi

There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity.
-Samuel Johnson

Do not allow yourself to be imprisoned by any affection. Keep your solitude. The day, if it ever comes, when you are given true affection there will be no opposition between interior solitude and friendship, quite the reverse. It is even by this infallible sign that you will recognize it.
-Simone Weil

If you do not tell the truth about yourself you cannot tell it about other people.
-Virginia Woolfe

If you will think about what you ought to do for other people, your character will take care of itself. Character is a by-product, and any man who devotes himself to its cultivation in his own case will become a selfish prig.
-Woodrow Wilson

Trust only movement. Life happens at the level of events, not of words. Trust movement.
-Alfred Adler

To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.
-George Macdonald

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
-HH Dalai Lama

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.
-HH Dalai Lama

Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them.
-HH Dalai Lama